Need some serious guidence!!!!!

[NEMSZ]

So im going to try and make this as short as possible, but still may be very long... BUT PLEASE READ ALL OF IT... THANK YOU!!

So im a young guy.. 20 years old.. Was very confused about what i want to do with my life for a while.. Found a passion racing motorcycles but ALWAYS had the plan of leaving to the military in my head.. I couldnt afford to race anymore so no chance of me going pro but fuck it. I had the military.. Always wanted to be a Ranger, as some of you may know its a big goal of mine, ive spoken about it a few times before.. Its something i aspire to be. I look up to those kind of people.. It was what i wanted to do.. No if's, and's or but's about it.. BUT something pretty crazy happened..

I have a biological father i never really knew.. 2 older brothers and 1 younger that i also never really knew.. My father gave up on me when i was 3, gave up his rights to my mom and never bothered to try again.. Now about 16 years later.. My little brother sends me a message on Facebook saying hes my little brother and i have other brothers and a sister that think about me alot.. Im thinking, "when the fuck did i get a sister?"... Turns out i have 1 other younger brother and a younger sister aswell.. 6 of us all from the same father.. All of them wich have a relationship with him, i was the only one left out.. This all happened about 1 month ago by the way.. I met them all and the rest of that side of my family.. My "father" accepted me back and apologized to me.. Took the fault and felt guilty for everything.. I didnt care much i just wanted to be there for my younger brothers and my sister.. My older brothers are too far apart in age to really do much with them.. So they look up to me and its like i never left.. I go to the house almost everyday.. I bond with them and i love them with everything i have.. I love my older brothers too but i have a special connection with the young ones i guess you can say..

So i had a talk with the fam and they got to know about my passion in racing and my oldest brother and my "father" want to help me out with a $50,000 sponsorship so i can race and go pro.. Ofcourse i was super excited when i heard this.. And in case your wondering, without much detail, both my "father" and my brother are pretty damn successful...

So my question and hope for guidence is this... Theres been bullshitting around left and right... And well i cant exactly trust someone who hasnt been there in 16 years to all of a sudden do something this big for me.. I dont want an illusion.. Im pretty upset with my older brother aswell because he's old enough to have looked for me a long time ago, hes 34.. I felt abandoned, like a piece of shit most of my life.. They keep telling me its gona come through but i see NO progress.. My little brothers and my sister dont want me to leave to the military.. My little brother Vince is 16, super smart.. Im so proud of him.. He's like a walking brain lol... My little brother Austin, he's 14.. Baseball player and the funniest person ive ever met, i can laugh all day with him.. He's gona make it to the big leagues one day i know it.. And my little sister Lauren, she's 12. She's so beautiful, doesnt even look 12... Shes gona be breaking hearts left and right lol and i care for her so much, imagine the only girl out of 6 siblings..

I feel complete now after so many years.. I feel happy.. BUT at the same time i still want to leave to the military while at the same time i dont!... Im gona miss them so much and i feel like i have something here now.. But at the same time id love to be a Ranger, and serve my country and do what few get to do... This racing thing isnt 100%, i honestly think its not gona come through.. Im still training for it.. And i read the Ranger Creed and get inspired all over again.. I feel like ill be letting myself down.. I dont know..

So what should i do?? How should i go about this?? Any guidence would be amazing and thanks in advance.. I just didnt know where else to go..

[chiselmeat]

I think you should follow your dream. That won't mean an end to your relationship with your family, they will support your decision what ever it is, and be there when you return.

[crazedhate]

thats so great you are reunited with your father and siblings, congratulations, i can only imagine your joy. family is most important bond one will ever have. now for the rest of y'alls lives you will be that much closer from all of this.
as far as your future; i wouldn't get all too excited about the racing thing until you know the sponsorship is 100%. talk is cheap for sure. but if it does go through then that is great. don't know too much about the sport but could it be a realistic CAREER or something you love to do and hope you can make a living from it? but what all happens if you were to get injured and couldn't race anymore? that's why i think the Ranger route is a more solid path for you to travel my friend. sounds like you have wanted to do that for a while now and sound passionate enough to make something out of it. of course risk involved there as well but risk with greater purpose IMO.
whatever you choose, follow your heart.

[WetWorks]

Bump Chiselmeat and Crazedhate

don't put off joining the Rangers, like I did and regret not doing it when you was in the prime of your life. I have a few regrets in life and you don't want to grow up the with regret, trust me lol

[soldierdavis]

You could always go reserve... then once you get done basic and ait you could pick a station close to home so you can play army and see your family both

[koa123]

Here you go read it agian.

The Ranger Creed
Recognizing that I volunteered as a Ranger, fully knowing the hazards of my chosen profession, I will always endeavor to uphold the prestige, honor, and "esprit de corps" of the Rangers.
Acknowledging the fact that a Ranger is a more elite soldier who arrives at the cutting edge of battle by land, sea, or air, I accept the fact that as a Ranger my country expects me to move farther, faster and fight harder than any other soldier.

Never shall I fail my comrades. I will always keep myself mentally alert, physically strong and morally straight and I will shoulder more than my share of the task whatever it may be. One-hundred- percent and then some.

Gallantly will I show the world that I am a specially selected and well- trained soldier. My courtesy to superior officers, neatness of dress, and care for equipment shall set the example for others to follow.

Energetically will I meet the enemies of my country. I shall defeat them on the field of battle for I am better trained and will fight with all my might. Surrender is not a Ranger word. I will never leave a fallen comrade to fall into the hands of the enemy and under no circumstances will I ever embarass my country.

Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to fight on to the Ranger objective and complete the mission though I be the lone survivor.

Rangers Lead The Way!



I served 8 years in the army. It is a hard life but it will change you for the better. You will learn things about yourself and how strong you really are. Only you can make the choice. For me I say go ARMY

[Gman]

Bro, personally don't ever take or give money to family..... only bad things can come from it and it leaves you always vulnerable to character charges if anything goes south...... As for Military, sounds like a viable plan but please ensure you get an education you are not going to be young forever and your ticket out is higher education, so while in military invest all you can in completing a degree!!!!

[cookiedough]

Amazing reunion you've had. I agree w/Gman on the money. If it goes wrong the whole reunion might be soured. Protect your relationship with them. Pro Racing careers are short lived, but you can still race after the military commitment is concluded. Also, make an honest assessment of your skills. Are you competitive enough to get sponsorships from people who have no emotional investment in you? If so, then get the sponsorships first before you make any decisions. If not, then the choice is clearly to stay with the Rangers.

You have to what's best for you, and you should think in those terms. You'll have all three: Family, Rangers and racing if you stick it out with the military option. Racing can wait and should be seen as your passion and your lifelong hobby. Just my small opinion, again.


Seems like there's a good deal of risk with the family sponsored racing and it's interrupting your commitment to yourself and the Rangers.

[NEMSZ]

Yea i was leaning more towards the Army route aswell... Besides the fact i didnt think they would come through anyways.. But to answer some of you.. Yes racing is a realistic career, im sure you know about the AMA, the international tites such as Isle of Man TT, MotoGP ofcourse... Its all a matter of how good you are along with the support aka sponsors... And yes im pretty damn competative.. But you guys are right, the Ranger route is a better choice when compared... I guess its just me being nervous now that ive met my siblings.. My father, well it really wouldnt bother me to leave him, ive delt 16 years without him and if it werent for my mother and step dad or should i say hes my real father regardless i didnt come out of his balls.. I wouldnt be how i am today.. Its my siblings i care for, and i guess i just dont wana let go... But i know you guys are right..

[powerman]

Good luck in whatever decision you make. GO ARMY